Eye patterns – This is how you read someone’s eyes
How do NLP Eye Patterns work? Let’s find out in this article. When we look up certain information in our nervous system, or create new information, we literally gain access to the information by moving our eyes in a certain direction. It is very helpful to get into the habit of seeing directly in other people what kind of information they are looking up or creating. You do this by paying attention to the eye patterns. Read along…
It is best to start practicing immediately – Recognizing eye patterns in practice
Ask any person the following questions and see which direction his or her eyes are going, to find the answer.
- VC Question: “What would your living room look like if it were purple?”
- VR-Question: “How much space was there to play in the residential area you grew up in?”
- AC Question: “If I had Elmo’s voice what would I sound like?”
- AR-Question: “What was the last thing I said?” “How does your mother’s voice sound?”
- K-Question: “How do you feel when you walk barefoot on the beach?” How does it feel when you receive a compliment from someone? ”
- AD-Question: “Say for yourself – in your head – the lyrics of your favorite quote or song.”
When you see an eye movement that is inconsistent with the question you asked, ask what they were doing inside. For example, if you instruct someone to propose something warm, and that person then moves their eyes not to the bottom right but to the top left, then their explanation could be, ‘I was thinking about what a hot bubble bath looked like. ‘
In addition, pay attention to the eye movements of the people you see in television programs.
Exercise – Obtaining rapport by matching the other’s eye patterns
Use the other’s eye movements to build rapport . You can practice with this as follows:
B provides a response using predicates that match the eye direction.
- A is opposite B. C is behind B.
- A starts talking, for example with a statement. A Talk about a topic without predicates , but look in the direction C is pointing. For example, “I like to go to the gym.” A keeps the predicates out so that B can practice optimally by only paying attention to the eye directions and not getting hints via predicates from A. We isolate the training of the skill of utilizing eye movements. X
- C points his hand in the direction in which A should look, while A continues to talk without predicates.
- B notices the eye movements of A and meanwhile he matches the eyes of A in his choice of words by means of predicates. “I like to go to the gym” and at the same time the eyes go to the top left: “What did you see in the gym yesterday?” Top right: “What exercises do you see yourself doing?” Then A looks sideways: “How was the music in the gym?”
- Match 3 minutes. Some more examples: When A looks up, you say, for example, “I see you have a look in your face that really looks forward to tomorrow.” For example, when A looks to the sides, say, “So you tuned in to the sound of the crisp tone of the babbling river as it sang its song.”
- 1 minute of mismatching, so using completely different kinds of words than those that match the eye direction. So if someone looks up and says, “When I look at the issue, I can never imagine we would be happy together,” say, “God, that must feel awful. I can hear you all the way. Feels painful. What are you feeling right now? “
- Match 3 minutes. Did it go well? Match now also by mirroring with your own eyes and by making a gesture in the appropriate direction.
More uses of eye patterns
- Read someone’s eye movements to read someone’s thinking or decision strategy. Read the directions in sequence to read the order of their motivations. Then speak in their language, which will add to the degree of rapport. You may want to ask a question to read the other: “Wow, I love your watch, how did you decide to buy it?” The other will then move their eyes in certain directions as they remember.
- Calibrate people in advance by asking what route they took to get here. In most cases they look to the top left, but that is not always the case. For left-handed people sometimes the left and the right side are reversed.
- Also do this to read other people’s needs. For example: ask your partner what you can do to show your love even more: bottom right is a need to hug, left is ‘which words can I say more often’ or ‘which music’?
- Memorize things visually by holding your eyes at the top left when you need to remember something. Then, when remembering, look at the top left. Also use this knowledge during your exercises. For example, if you start a visualization on an imaginary TV screen in which the client needs to remember something, hold the TV in the top left or ask the client to look in the top left corner of the room. If, on the other hand, you want the client to hallunicate something new, guide the client so that he or she looks to the top right.
- Also good to know: people often move in two steps to the direction where the information they are looking for is stored.
- You can recognize the leading representation system (not to be confused with the dominant representation system) by looking in which directions the eyes go first.
- Utilize someone’s eye patterns to respond to the other person’s experience in real time: if someone goes with their eyes to the bottom right, then ask: what hits you now? If someone is looking at the direction for Ad, ask, “What are you saying to yourself?” When someone looks up, ask, “What do you see in front of you now?”
- A coach client is stuck and looks down to the left. You can read this process and ask, “What are you saying to yourself now?” In this way you follow the other in his / her experience, making the rapport stronger.
- Use the eye patterns for amnesia: swing away the images people are watching. Do that with your hand in front of their face. You literally wipe the images away.
Eye patterns are not a lie detector
Once upon a time there was a movie with Samuel Jackson where he interrogates someone and accuses them of a lie because they are looking to the right. This technique cannot be used as a lie detector, because you can first create an image or canvas, through which you look to the right, and then add information from the past to that image. You compose a new image to compare things from the past or to filter out one memory from the past.
In the NLP Practitioner Training this is a lot of practice. How do you apply eye movements? Let me know in the comments.