How To Deal With Changes? [Best Advice]
You may sometimes wonder, “Why can’t I stand change?” It is understandable and logical to struggle with change. How can you deal with (major) changes, for example at work? Read along…
The only thing that is certain is that everything changes: so detach yourself from changes
Change, and even loss, is inherent in life: sooner or later your work environment, living situation and possessions will change and even disappear. So develop a sense of detachment for these things. That’s when something special happens: life suddenly becomes much more pleasant.
The only constant is that there is always change.
Sadness comes with change, and that is also allowed
When I was little, change took place in my family as well. Namely a death. These are often not the nicest changes, but these kinds of things are also part of life.
Process the emotions that emerge with change
Emotions like sadness are welcome. In other words, go cry for a while. Process these emotions appropriately , so that afterwards your attention can be focused on the future (or rather, the here-and-now ), rather than the past. We cannot change the past, but we determine the future ourselves through today’s decisions.
See the beauty in change
At the time of writing this, it is spring. This season is a nice reminder of how beautiful change can be. And that too will pass: autumn will come and show the flip side of change, and that too is an inescapable change that is not necessarily ‘bad’. In fact, it is equivalent to spring. This is discussed further in the article on non-duality.
Open your arms to change, but don’t drop your values.
– Dalai Lama
Ask yourself the following questions about change
You can ask yourself certain questions with every change:
- What can I learn from this?
- Can I see that through this I am growing as a human being and spiritually?
- What am I not going to do next time?
- What am I going to do next time?
Liberation lies in surrender to change
We cannot fight and resist change. Because it is there, and it keeps bringing new things with it that we may not like at all. For example, change brings pain…
This is an invitation to read a little more about acceptance and surrender. For example, you surrender to ‘what is’ or to what you feel, such as pain. These things, such as “what is” and “pain,” are things that are change. When you have complete acceptance for these things, an opening arises… An opening that makes it possible to deal with change.