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How To Apply Directive Communication [Clear Example]

How To Apply Directive Communication [Clear Example]

How can you be directive in a conversation? How can you communicate directively? This is a meaningful communication style to apply in certain situations. In this article you will learn how. Read along…

Why is directive communication sometimes important?

I sometimes communicate wonderfully in a directive and guiding way. Why? This is  effective and proactive. This is important in the following situations, for example …

  • When you are in a meeting and it has been about an unimportant item on the agenda for half an hour … when nobody says anything about it. Then it makes sense for you to take the lead and say something about it so that you can continue and at least not waste hundreds of dollars in salary minutes discussing what kind of paper to use to print something.
  • When you are in a conversation and someone with autism constantly demands attention by talking about his / her own insignificant things … without giving others the opportunity to contribute to the conversation. Then it is very useful that you direct the conversation in a directive way so that the conversation gets back into balance.

In short: it is sometimes absolutely necessary because otherwise a lot of money and time will be lost, everyone goes crazy or because no one else is doing it. Then get up to do something about it!

An example of directive communication

An example: We are talking to four people. However, Piet has now been speaking at length for 10 minutes without it being interesting and without others being interested. So I say: “Piet, hold that thought. Come on, let’s sit by the campfire. ” Or I say: “Piet, hold that thought. Merel, tell me something!”

I take on the role of the informal leader to adjust the conversation to my taste and make it more fun and active.

However, you can’t always do this just like that …

this is how you communicate directive

There are conditions to be able to do this:

  • I need to have a report with Piet and the rest of the group. This means, among other things, that I first followed them in their experience.
  • There must not already be another informal leader . If there is another effective informal leader, I am flexible and do not take his stage. If I still want to lead something, I will make sure that I make rapport with this informal leader. If I get the informal leader, the rest will follow.
  • You have to accept the risk : there is a chance that a number of people will irritate me because I dare to take the lead. There is also a chance that a different number of people will be charmed and happy. That’s the whole point of taking risks. It’s a good thing.

That last point is especially important. That is also the reason why I dare to send ‘piercing’ or ‘directive’ emails. I don’t care if I annoy a few people with that. That is the risk I have to take to lead a group of people .

In short: sometimes be the leader – while maintaining the connection – and take risks

You can safely communicate  penetrating, active, directive and guiding. … while maintaining and strengthening the connection … while daring to take healthy risks that some are ‘not served’ by you taking the lead. Because otherwise a house somewhere burns down without anyone taking the initiative to do something about it.

To your success!

About The Author


Hello! Thanks for reading these articles. My intention is to make happiness as simple and clear as posssible. By the way, excuse my English. I am not a native English speaker since I live in Amsterdam. Much appreciated if you use the comments to make suggestions on my grammar. See ya in another blogpost!