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NLP Modeling: How-To, Checklist & Full Explanation

NLP Modeling: How-To, Checklist & Full Explanation

How can you perform the NLP technique ‘Modeling’? “Be yourself” is bad advice if you use this as an excuse for not doing anything, not having to set goals, and not moving forward. What if the opposite of that advice also makes sense? Why be yourself when you can be the president, a hero or a superstar? It is possible with modeling! Here are  all steps and questions for modeling!

Sources used: my teachers from Vidarte

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What is modeling?

You can do anything a human can do. What makes you different from world famous top athletes and performers? We are all human. So we start with the idea that all people are equal in their physical and mental capacities. The only differences lie in motivation, values, beliefs and attitudes that can steer you in a certain (excellent) direction.

In modeling, we take excellent people as an example. We pay very little attention to what they say they do, but a lot of attention to what they actually do.

Be yourself, and use other people’s tools for excellence!

Modeling is the art of comparing someone who is excellent at a given activity to someone who is mediocre in the same activity. Subsequently, these differences (‘the differences that make the difference’) are made explicit. Very NLP has been developed with these modeling techniques!

Modeling is a process where you create useful maps of human capabilities by zooming in on excellent behavior . It is doing a keyword.
– David Gordon, one of the first NLP modellers

Ways to apply modeling

learn to model

Someone can be trusting on the golf course and not at work. All resources, properties, skills and emotions (in short: states) are already in you. So you don’t have to train them for years, but you can just call them up. All you need is a role model and the belief that you can do it. In addition, necessity, the belief that it is absolutely necessary, is also useful.

So when someone says, “I can’t be assertive to my boss,” she’s essentially saying, “At some point in my personal history, I’ve been assertive. I just can’t use it in the context of my boss.”

Our RAS will then use autopilot to draw the supplies from those sources. This means that you only need to be inspired to also address and activate your skills that were already inside you. You can do that as follows:

  • Set goals.
  • Taking successful people as role models.
  • Taking yourself as a role model at the moments in your life when you already showed the relevant state.
  • Believe in it that you can.

I can never fully become like an expert, can I?

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Of course there remains a difference between an expert who has devoted himself to a skill for at least 10 years and someone who has learned a skill in no time with modeling. That difference is in the last 20% towards the 100% completion of a skill. The first 80% can be learned within a few minutes to a few days. You can learn chess in an afternoon and with that you have made the difference between a chess expert from very large to quite small in one fell swoop. The last steps to completely eliminate the last 20% of the difference will take a thousand times longer.

The chess experts have been practicing for perfection every day for years. If you see the president speak, you can take over his posture and other qualities in a few days of practice and thus be at 80%. So the nuances to become an expert are the other 20%. The remaining 20% ​​may last more than 10 years. The same goes for dancing, presenting and NLP. By modeling you can absolutely have the first 80% of a source, trait, skill and emotion in you in a surprisingly short time.

If you’re good enough at pretending you can do something, you can master any skill.
– Milton Erickson

How does modeling work?

Ability is a matter of structure . If you know the structure, you could take over a capital. Every human capacity is transferable, since we are all human and therefore have broadly the same ‘hardware’. With the necessary willingness, effort and dedication, you can structure your own subjective experience as much as the role model you want to emulate.

The best people are still just people, at best.
– John Lambert

A trait like self-confidence does not depend on gender, IQ, nationality, social status, age, occupation or other external factors. Self-confidence comes from within. Because it comes from within, it is something you can easily work on. A coach always starts from this premise when he works with a client.

How did those resources end up in us? We have seen a good example of every skill or trait. For example, we have seen the president give a very confident speech on TV. With NLP we model the self-confidence that we have observed in the president to be able to do it ourselves.

Ability is a matter of structure.

To put it bluntly, modeling means imitating something. In fact, in many cases we have already achieved an excellent performance in our lives where we have already proven that we already have that particular skill. So when we model ourselves, we imitate ourselves. With a number of NLP exercises and models (including ‘meta programs and techniques to generate moods) we will focus our RAS (selective perception) on this in order to learn optimally from ourselves or our idols. So modeling.

The role of the subconscious in modeling


All the resources we need to model someone are stored in our subconscious and we can draw on them. Our conscious brain cannot let too much information through our filter. It can memorize up to 5 to 9 digits without training. When an extra piece of information is added, another piece of information is thrown out. The amnesia technique (pattern interruption) makes good use of this.

In contrast, our subconscious processes between 2.3 million to 2.3 billion pieces of information. It’s sort of a storehouse of all your memories and wisdom, and it’s much smarter and more creative than you are. By means of NLP it is possible to remember the stored information that lies in your subconscious. You may find that in difficult situations, a redeeming idea suddenly pops up in your mind, and you didn’t know where it came from, but you knew it’s the right thing.

Your dreams come from there too. Of those millions of pieces of information that are stored in your subconscious. No wonder dreams are so incredibly creative sometimes! Maybe in your dreams you come up with excellent solutions to difficult problems or you laugh on your hand with brilliant jokes. When you wake up, you will be amazed at how you did that in your dream. This proves that all the skills we want to develop are actually already in us!

As a small child you are learning so much every day while you do not realize that you are learning. For example learning to talk. And see how complicated that actually is. However, your subconscious has seen all those experiences so many times in the past that it has absorbed all that knowledge.

The same is true with all those interactions with people, and now you have a sense of peace and comfort because you now know that your subconscious has laid and will lay that foundation to support you in learning things that are important and enriching to you. Because when a house is built, nothing seems to happen during the first months, but the foundation is laid, and after that the house is almost ready. So you really know a lot more than you think! All those states are there for the taking.

Thorough modeling, what are the steps according to NLP Master Trainer Peter Dalmeijer?

modeling and the metaprofile analysis

In the Master Practitioner Program you will  conduct extensive modeling as a research method into a new skill to be transferred, and ultimately you will submit a thesis on this. Peter Dalmeijer has designed a number of steps to subdivide the modeling project.

Step 1: set the modeling goal (creative phase)

In this step you will write a research plan. You frame exactly what you want to model. Determine: what do I want to model? Determine the skill and the associated expert (or vice versa: the expert and the associated skill) that you can research about this.

A few points of interest:

  • It is recommended to model a skill for which no known NLP technique exists yet. NLP techniques already exist for negotiating and motivating, for example.
  • Also set a goal, with accompanying shape conditions, for your modeling project. Also, remember that when writing this goal down, make a heading ‘specific’ and a heading ‘ecology’. Here you indicate which parts of the expert you will and will not integrate into yourself.
  • Make a ‘VAK representation’ of your modeling goal. In other words, visualize this skill. This will help you get clarity to determine if you really want to model this.
  • Also determine what the current limited state of mind / skill is, or the starting point from which you go to the desired state of mind / skill. This can be: a) a change that the same person undergoes in the same situation, b) a situation in which the model did show the desired skill and a situation in which the model did not show the desired skill or c) you can model two people: one person who does have the skill and a person who does not have the skill.
  • Also determine a counterexample of the target power so that you can also model the counterexample. That is, the opposite of the meaningful skill, while the conditions are the same as for the meaningful skill. This is useful because it will eventually allow you to see which elements are exactly the same in the unsuccessful example and the successful example. Those elements make no difference and you can ultimately leave out of consideration in your conclusion.

Step 2: Assume the three perception positions (intuitive and / or structuring phase)

Go into the field, walk with your model for one or more days, see him / her in action, dive into his / her world and ask interview questions. You could call this the ‘research phase’.

An interesting remark: within NLP we are often not analytical with the conscious brain , but rather through moods via the subconscious mind . One NLP school of thought teaches that you have to model subconsciously through states of mind, the other school approaches it analytically and yet other schools of thought teach modeling not at all.

For the sake of completeness, you can apply all methods. So there are several ways to approach this. You could sort these three ways through the three observation positions :

  1. The second observation position: you perform the target capacity as if you were the model, in terms of internal perception and external behavior, with a ‘not-knowing-state’. This can provide valuable intuitions. You do this unconsciously , without observing yourself and without paying conscious attention to specific patterns. It can also help to only take over the ‘micro muscle movements’. If you want to read detailed steps for this, you can find The Mentoring Technique at the bottom of this article  : Modeling made easy by trusting your subconscious.
  2. The first perception position: you now execute the target ability from your own person. As if you are yourself.
  3. The Third Observation Position : This is the analytic, conscious position to model. Use the step-by-step plan that is a little further in this article. That is the comprehensive way to thoroughly analyze someone from a neutral position, compare them with yourself and then model and take over their skills. In the third position, you put, among other things, the expert’s meta profile next to your own meta profile.

Dance between the observation positions and gather information and skills in each place. This is a fast modeling technique.

Step 3: Become the expert and integrate the target expertise (integration phase)

In the previous step, you used the second observation position and the ‘as if frame’ to ‘become’ the expert. The main purpose was that in this way you take over the skills in an unconscious way while making use of the ‘Not-knowing-state’.

In addition, you mapped the expertise of the expert in a very cognitive way in the third observation position. Now is the time to test all of your findings. For example, take over the core value of the expert and test what this does to your behavior.

You can feel free to be coached until you are fully the expert. Do you want to model consciously and install the model’s TOTE strategy in yourself? A few possible ways …

  • This can be done by using the anchor technique ‘chaining anchors’ . You anchor every TOTE step on every knuckle.
  • You can also use the behavior generator in combination with the mentoring technique (at the bottom of this article) to rehearse and adopt the new behavior.
  • Be creative and improvise. For example, the Swish technique is known as a tool on a behavioral level, but I use it precisely to put moods and models in the desired image.

In this step it is really important that you do not try to be smart yourself. “He / she disagrees with me, but I only really know how it is.” The other is the expert, not you. Always do it exactly like the expert. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel until you consistently produce the expert’s result. You know that you are consistently producing the expert’s result by asking for and adjusting for feedback.

Step 4: Teach target ability as an expert to new students (transfer phase)

You map the target capital in a clear manner and you present the ‘how’ of it, for example in a model or step-by-step plan. You are now coding, including the transition to the target equity. How do you get from the unwanted situation / state of mind / skill into the desired one?

It is important that you filter out the essence: what is the difference that makes the difference? What can you omit while achieving the same results? You can leave out pieces one by one to discover what is essential.

You are now an NLP developer with your own universal NLP technique. The ultimate test is whether you can successfully convey it to others in a reasonable time frame.

  • Teach the model to someone who knows nothing about NLP and is currently average in your modeled target equity. Does your model make him / her better?
  • Learn the model of someone who strongly below-average performance in your target power. Does the model (also) have an effect on this person?
  • Teach the model as an alternative method to someone who already knows your modeled target ability at an expert level . Does he / she find it a useful addition to his / her experience?
  • Teach the model to a whole group of people at the same time in a workshop . What is the feedback from the people? Does it work for them?

Step 5: Train new trainers (expansion phase)

Because you have developed a universal technique, you don’t have to be the only one who can teach it to others. You can also train independent trainers. Examples of modellers who have done this and train others to train their own modeling technique are: Jack Canfield and Brandon Bays.

What exactly can you observe and / or ask for in thorough modeling?

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Below you will find nine elements that you can include in your research. Before we get to the elements, a few more tips …

  • Always participate live by pretending that you are the model and by already ‘doing’ the answer in your experience.
  • Always try to answer the questions yourself, while pretending to be the model. In this way you become more empathetic and let your own experience of the answer be the first choice, even if the expert is standing next to you and you can ask for the answer ready-made. The point is that you empathize with the expert.
  • For the elements below, always ask the question: ‘How is this related to the target equity?’

Element 1 – Core criteria (values: what is important to you)

You may think: what do values ​​have to do with modeling? Values ​​are so important because they drive our experiences and abilities. Therefore, values ​​are listed here as the first element in this article.

It’s a mistake to just zoom in on someone’s behavior. Values ​​determine everything that happens inside and outside you. The ability to target – including the associated behaviors and strategies – is also related to the fulfillment of a value. How is that exactly?

Do you remember the communication model ? Values ​​are important filters to our experience. The value that operates in us largely determines what your experience will be and what your attention will be focused on.

An example:

perhaps you are currently pursuing a Master Practitioner course. What is important to you in this context? What is the criterion that you want to satisfy and fulfill with this training? That is, for example, understanding, insight, awareness, education, communication and / or tranquility . So everything that comes up in the training, you evaluate on the basis of those criteria. Because of this, you will notice certain lessons very much, while you will not even notice other lessons.

Values ​​are of course context dependent. If understanding is your criterion in your Master Practitioner program, and you go out for lunch in the afternoon, then understanding is no longer your criterion. Then  speed, health, convenience or enjoyment is your criterion.

You evaluate what you do and experience based on your values. If your values ​​change, your behavior and your experience will change. If health is your criterion, you will automatically eliminate some restaurants in the shopping street in your experience because they are not healthy. The person walking next to you, on the other hand, may have in mind the criterion “beneficial” that will automatically make their eyes fall on McDonald’s.

Another example:

Suppose you are modeling someone who is excellent at guiding foreign children who do not speak the language. The expert could have as core criterion: putting others at ease . Step into the situation, take this value and test what happens.

And what would happen if you applied a different core criterion in the same situation, such as appearing professional or maintaining control?  Would that change your reactions and behaviors in that situation? Absolutely! It immediately changes your thinking, feeling and doing.

So an important modeling question is: what is important to you? Which (core) criterion do you want to satisfy and fulfill? This way you know more about how the model filters his / her experience, after which the target power is activated. So find out during the conversation which values ​​are most important to the other.

In addition, there are a few extra elements that you can discover:

  • Enabling cause effect for the criterion. “How do you get to {value}? What must happen or be present to get to {value}? What behavior, value, resource, or skill, for example? Or what external event?”
  • Motivating cause effect for the criterion. Also ask about the intention of the value , so that you get to the core value . “Why is {criterion} important? Where does it lead?” You can also use the technique ‘core scavenger’ or ‘core mandala’. An article about this later.
  • Definition of the criterion: What does this value mean for this person? You want to ask for examples of situations in which those values ​​are expressed. Because a value is just a label. That label points to experiences . You would prefer to hear at least three examples of such experiences, so that you get a clear definition of the value.
  • Evidence : What do you need to see, hear and / or feel to be able to say that the criterion has been met?

Element 2 – Asking the Logical Levels questions

Via the logical levels of Dilts, ask  where someone is in their daily life and what they do. As you climb into the logic level model, you go deeper and deeper with the other. In this way you even arrive at the true identity and mission of the other.

Element 3 – Tote analysis (including inner strategy and submodalities)

Do a TOTE analysis to gain valuable insights on how the expert is doing his target ability. From the inside and the outside.

Do not only involve the internal processes, but also zoom in on behavior , because the internal processes do not actually do anything in the world. The external behaviors ensure that those internal processes become meaningful.

Also ask about secondary strategies: “What do you do if that doesn’t work well enough, doesn’t work at all, or can’t work?”

Also pay special attention to the submodalities of the strategy. Everything people say and do can be sensibly reduced to the five senses. Take, for example, the mood of the model and question all submodalities.

Element 4 – All questions to map the structure of the subjective experience

If you did not do so in the previous step, use targeted questions to map the structure of the expert’s subjective perception in the context of the target ability. You can find these questions in the article with coaching questions .

Element 5 – Physiology

Note the following with the other:

  • Breathing
  • Facial expressions
  • Gestures
  • Eye movements
  • Breathing
  • Tonality
  • intonations
  • Unconscious non-verbal responses

Immediately copy everything, because this will not only make you the expert, but additional questions may also arise.

Element 6 – Systemic bedding

  • How did your youth provide a breeding ground or source for this expertise?
    For example, from taking over or selling off and doing the opposite. Or loss or pain from their youth, which transforms into strength.
  • How was your talent visible as a young child?
  • What role did your parents play in this?
  • How do you recognize your father or mother in this talent?
  • From what loss or from what effort within your family did this talent arise?
  • To whom are you extremely loyal through this talent?
  • How was it inevitable that you were going to do this?
  • What have you just received and kept?
  • What have you opposed and gone against?
  • Where do you recognize this in your system?
  • Who in the system did this happen to in your youth?
  • Who was so good at giving you …

By the way, the systemic bed is always the father or the mother.

Element 7 – Which anchors and / or recurring patterns do you notice?

Look carefully to see if you naturally notice triggers and responses (anchors) in this person, which are constantly recurring (patterns: what does he do over and over again?)

Element 8 – Meta programs: take the meta profile

The meta profile analysis … A great tool that comes in handy for important interviews, for example. You really go deep with the other. Whether it be special in-depth interviews, observations of the capabilities of experts or for coaching sessions … You will achieve results.

Map the expert’s mate programs with respect to the context of the target equity. See the article on meta programs. There you will also find the questionnaire that you can use to determine someone’s meta program.

Why the meta profile? One of the reasons for applying the metaprofile analysis to people is that after this you know exactly how to treat the person in question.

  • Example in a training context: I can process the group’s sensory preferences in my language: if a participant says, “It was beautiful and picturesque,” I don’t say, “Wow, it must have felt really good.” But: “Wow, I couldn’t imagine what a clear view you must have had there”.
  • I better consider their meta programs when creating Rapport . If someone is detail-oriented, I make small gestures and explain ideas in small steps. If someone thinks in bigger chunks, then I make big gestures with my whole arm and talk more broadly.
  • I can ask myself the following questions: Do you know people who have already successfully built rapport with this person? What can you learn from them? What is their background? What other help can you use? What is the first step?
  • I can observe and listen extra well! In addition, I look for opportunities to capitalize on.
  • I respond to the preferences of the other person or group of people. In this way I adapt my communication to them.
  • I can conduct very deep interviews, which makes me write strong articles for all kinds of media.
  • And so you can come up with even more situations and examples when the meta profile would be useful.

A meta profile consists of holding a conversation, but also of the behaviors and patterns that you observe. You can find out about someone’s metaporophile in many ways, not just through conversations. For example, let the other person make a work of art with the things that are available at that moment. Observe that person at times like that. The artwork preferably consists of objects, such as chairs, in combination with people.

Element 9 – The metamodel

Words have different meanings to different people. They point to completely different inner experiences. So it is important to apply the meta model while modeling: “How specific?”

If the metamodel is not applied, the text on paper can be interpreted differently by different people. As a result, there is no transferability and people will apply it differently than the researcher intended.

Simple example of an application of the metaprofile

modeling and metaprofile analysis

I once gave a workshop to a group of seniors. I made sure to get information about this group, and I responded:

Action 1

They prefer to sit back passively during presentations.

Reactive: they want to listen quietly and do nothing.

After that, I asked them few questions during the training, so little interaction during the presentation. The seniors prefer to listen to a presentation passively.

Action 2

They come to the computer club for questions for the helpdesk.

External Frame of Reference: They seek confirmation and help from those who understand computers

I give them the validation and confirmation they seek by encouraging them when they come to me with their question.

Action 3

They come for fun.
The computer club is a social occasion for many seniors.

A core criterion is therefore: conviviality

Because of this I know it’s okay to joke.

Action 4

Members also come to attend training.

Learning is therefore a core criterion.

I have put many facts and tips in my presentation.

Action 5

Negative: they complain about the innovations in the computers and that they say they are not necessary.

I made references to “the good old days” and referred to innovations with the adverb “boring.”

Action 6

One of the group members I spoke to spoke very quickly. That was the youngest (40 years old).

I also spoke back to him quickly when I spoke to him separately.

Action 7

The other group members talk at a slower pace.

During the presentation I spoke very slowly.

Exercise – Selling with the metaprofile

Think of an existing or invented product that you are going to sell to person A. To do this, create the meta profile of A, and place it next to the seller. Identify the three main differences between the salesperson and person A, and create an action plan so that the salesperson can adapt their behavior to A’s meta profile (create report). Of course you will check afterwards what the effect was: to which behavior was person A sensitive? Give yourself feedback.

Exercise: getting handy with the meta profile

  • Create a meta profile of yourself.
  • Create a meta profile of three different people so that you get good at it. Find out what the difference is between the different people and what the consequences are for the best way to communicate with these people. Set a goal for your communication with these people.

Exercise: Using the Meta Profile for Difficult Communication

  • Think of a situation where your communication with someone else did not go the way you wanted, or where you were not satisfied with the result.
  • View this situation from the third position.
  • Place your meta profile next to the other person’s meta profile and find out what the differences are.
  • Determine what could be the causes of the non-optimal communication, based on the metaprofiles.
  • Make this a goal for the next contact with this person.

The next step: now use the meta profile to coach someone else towards a better way of communicating with a person with whom communication is still difficult. Map the differences between the meta profiles of your client and the person with whom it is difficult to communicate. Send your client to adapt his way of communicating on the basis of the meta profile to the other.

How do you use the meta profile?

A lot is possible with the meta profile. For example, do you use it in one-on-one situations, or to know exactly how to best convey a workshop to your group? In the Master Practitioner Course you use the meta profile for modeling, for example. It is also an excellent tool for in-depth interviews. Have you used it to model someone? Repeat the person’s strategy as many times as necessary until it is installed in yourself. You can do this a few times dry first. Let us know what you do with it in the comments!

Technique – Simple modeling

You can start modeling in just a few minutes. Not by writing an entire thesis, but by simply discovering how to do it directly with your body.

UNLP Trainers Marcel Meijlink and Vincent van der Burg have brought modeling together into the most effective and quick steps that are needed:

  1. Find an expert for the target equity you want to model.
  2. Ask the model to do the target ability. Watch and observe. Pay particular attention to posture and what is happening inside.
  3. Join yourself now too! Pretend you’re already an expert – and you’re already the best at this.
  4. Reinforce the skill / feeling. What makes this stronger?
  5. Weaken the skill / feeling. What makes this weaker?

This rapid modeling not only provides insight to you, but also to the expert of the assets. Before, he / she did not know ‘how’ to do it, but by discovering the ability together in practice, the expert also discovers what exactly strengthens or weakens the ability.

An example of such a mini-modeling:

Someone wanted to learn guts and courage from me yesterday. According to the steps above, I had to do it immediately … So I ran straight onto the street without thinking and without a plan, saw complete strangers who might be in a hurry, stopped them enthusiastically, had a chat with them and gave them a hug.

Then we went to step 5 and so I weakened the feeling of courage and courage in me. I found that reflected in thinking, doubting and waiting before taking action. As a result, nothing meaningful got off the ground.

Finally, I spotted the differences: what strengthens the capacity for guts and courage? What weakens the capacity for courage and courage? I discovered a surprising answer that gave me insight into how I did my net worth:

My attention was outward. In addition, I did not think and I did not wait. I immediately started doing it in an increased energy and with surrender. That was the big difference with me. In other words: When I had guts and courage, my attention was not focused on my own personality, I did not wait, I did not think and besides I did not ask for a hug, but offered a hug and just gave it without thinking . As a result, every cyclist stopped in front of me and they spontaneously went along with everything I did with them.

15 minutes later, we were done, charting my crucial differences of guts and non-guts.

Technique – The Mentoring Technique: Easy modeling by trusting your subconscious

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Several skills are required for a complete modeling exercise. The exercise ‘The Mentoring Technique’ already shows a piece of the essence of modeling, and makes use of the technique: behavior generator.  The technique of the behavior generator is supplemented with an example figure that you can model.

The mentoring technique in a nutshell?

Think of someone you deeply respect and admire. How else would this person view this situation?

One step further, pretend {your mom and dad} are in the room where you want to show excellent behavior – and they see and hear everything you do. How would you behave differently and react differently?

  1. What is the situation that you would have liked to solve / tackle differently? It can be a reminder and it can also be a situation that you are currently in and where you could put certain skills to good use.
  2. Associate with that situation. What do you see, hear and feel?
  3. Take 3 steps back. point to the empty spot where you stood before. We now see {the name of the client} ( so dissociated ). We are looking at {the name of the client}.
  4. Now is your chance to become Steven Spielberg and do some directing. Choose an acting coach (model) for him / her who could handle the situation. It can be a real or fictional person, because in the whole world there must be someone who can handle this situation? Or choose yourself as a coach if you know you can do it.
  5. Let {the client’s own name} take a seat somewhere so that he / she can have a good look at it all. The chosen acting coach (the model) performs the scene first. Start the video and see how the model approaches it:
    What does the ideal you (if you are the model yourself) or model look like?
    Make an image of it.
    What is his or her attitude?
    Facial expression?
    Body language?
    What does he or she think, feel and do?
    See how he or she is in control of the situation and everything under control.
  6. Would your ecology agree if you too would do something like this? To find out, take a look at how {the client’s own name} does exactly the same as the acting coach. Assess the performance, and pay attention to everything. If the congruence is not correct, start again at step 4 and change the model.
  7. You have now prepared one mentor for the exercise. You can also bet several. In that case, repeat the previous steps for a second and third model, if necessary.
  8. Go into a trance and imagine yourself taking off and literally stepping into the shoes of your role model. Do and communicate in your mind as your role model would. What do you pay attention to, what is important to you, what do you do and what do you believe? You could even do this for 20 or 30 minutes. This is also called ‘deep trance identification’.
  9. Come back to an objective meta position. After all, if the ecology is good, you’re going to …
  10. … associate within yourself again to fulfill the associated challenge all by yourself. If the situation presents itself, you can even act it out literally, like a play. Before you begin, look over your right shoulder for a moment and remember that important mentor (s) is behind you as an advisor. If necessary, receive additional messages and encouragement (can you notice a common message in it?) From your mentor (s) behind you, as if you literally feel back support, until you shoot forward almost naturally and tackle the obstacle. And no sooner than when you hear your mentors say: {common message}, do you run into the situation and tackle the obstacle. Go for it now (associated)!
  11. Always doing a future pace : imagine how you would use your new skills in the future.
  12. Look over your right shoulder and remember that important person is behind you as an advisor. Ask your hero if he wants to be your friend and if he wants to help you by your side from now on.

The secret to this exercise is that you created those coaches / models, so your subconscious mind already knows the answers.

Once you find someone who is good at the skill you want too, it’s just a matter of unleashing your imagination .

And you can literally choose from anyone who has ever lived in the entire history of humanity. You can even choose any character from any book and movie . You cannot tell me that you cannot find anyone from all the creative achievements of human history. Mother Teresa, Oprah Winfrey, The Three Musketeers, Ellen Degeneres … you can use all kinds of qualities such as courage, patience and self-confidence to solve your situation.

Using your imagination you create a visual and auditory representation of what you would like to do, using the model. You then also see yourself doing the same physical behaviors and saying those same verbal things.

All those qualities, such as Martin Luther King or Luke Skywalker, are your creation. They are part of your map of the world. They are yours. So the sources, qualities and responses they elicit are yours. They are in you right now, right now.  It  seems  there is an “I” and “them,” but it is all happening in your own experience. You create the ‘hen’. All kinds of filters – especially language (symbols) – have made us forget that.

– Tom Best

These were all steps for modeling – Read them extensively in Essentials of NLP

At least this was the article on modeling. Good luck carrying out the steps!

About The Author


Hello! Thanks for reading these articles. My intention is to make happiness as simple and clear as posssible. By the way, excuse my English. I am not a native English speaker since I live in Amsterdam. Much appreciated if you use the comments to make suggestions on my grammar. See ya in another blogpost!

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