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How To Develop Self-love: 26 Simple Tips To Love Yourself!

How To Develop Self-love: 26 Simple Tips To Love Yourself!

How can you love yourself more ? How can you accept yourself as you are? In this article you will find tips to increase your self-love and self-acceptance… How do you do that? What is self love anyway? In any case, it is the one thing you will never lose. Read along!

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The meaning of self-love & self-acceptance

The concepts of self-love and self-acceptance mean that you accept yourself as you are, including your shortcomings. So you also accept – or rather: precisely – your imperfections.

Just think about yourself: do you accept yourself as you are? Do you have love for yourself right now? You may have had periods in your life where you could not accept yourself as you were, and you may still be.

Just an example: you may find yourself too small and you find that difficult. That is understandable, especially if you get a lot of comments about it.

The image you have of yourself may not always be positive. At some point you should really change this, because otherwise you will only have yourself with it. Accepting yourself as you are is one of the most difficult but most beautiful projects you will undertake in your life.

Love is always the last or only answer.

This is where self-acceptance comes into play. Self-acceptance means: accepting your shortcomings. Accepting your imperfections. This is, of course, much more difficult than accepting your strengths. However, there is a very important key here. There is then a huge relief and peace, because you can be yourself.

Why is self-love so important?

self love tips

A lack of self-love greatly hinders your goals , happiness and relationships . Life always mirrors the feelings we have in us back to us. Everything starts with – and depends on the degree of love you are for yourself.

Anyone who is a good friend to themselves is guaranteed to be a good friend to everyone.
– Seneca

Above all, love holds the power to heal. When you stop putting love at the top of your life, you die a little bit every day.

All your pain comes from the belief that your source of love is outside of you.

Later in this article you will discover that all the love you ever need comes from yourself. So start developing more self-love for yourself today!

The answer is simple. Love yourself.
– Sonia Choquette

With love in your heart, the most ordinary things become beautiful. Then you become kinder and nicer to everyone you meet. Without love, nothing in the world has meaning and you feel like a stranger to everyone, even to your own family.

When you fill your own cup, your goodness will naturally flow to others.

All the effective tips to use to develop self-love

But how do you do that? How do you love yourself? How can you develop self-acceptance and self-love? How can you accept yourself (for example your body)? Let’s start right away with the tips: How do we love ourselves? All insights can be found below. Test the tips below and feel how your self-acceptance is doing afterwards.

Tip 1 – Stop self-criticism

The number 1 most important tip is: stop (please!) From criticizing yourself. Criticism never works. Also very important: don’t scare yourself. Stop terrorizing yourself with your own (compulsive) thoughts  and get rid of negative self-talk.

Take a moment now to feel that who you are today is innocent, perfect, and whole.  Even if your thoughts say something completely different – because that’s where self-criticism comes from.

Be nice to yourself by thinking positively about yourself. Don’t say negative things about yourself.

From now on I don’t want you anymore …

  • Complain about yourself.
  • Whining about yourself.
  • You start to criticize yourself.
  • Blame yourself.

Be content and grateful for the person you are in the present moment and stop guilt , shame, and fear. So appreciate your strengths and weaknesses. Fortunately, we always return to self-love. You will discover that later in this article.

Be less harsh on yourself. Allow yourself to make wonderful mistakes so you can learn from them. Now you can suddenly take a lot more risk … And with more risk you also have more to win!

Tip 2 – Say the following self-love and acceptance affirmations out loud


Speak loving affirmations. Say the following affirmations out loud regularly:

  1. I accept and appreciate my body.
  2. I accept the opinions of others and my own opinion.
  3. I accept that I cannot change the past.
  4. I accept my own responsibility.
  5. I feel free. Everything is good as it is.
  6. I love my imperfections – full of courage .
  7. I love myself. You can make this affirmation at all times of the day. While vacuuming, driving, waiting, etc.

Make the affirmations even if you don’t see it yet. Also pronounce these sentences:

  1. I matter.
  2. I love myself.
  3. I am valuable.
  4. And all my aspects can be there.
  5. I am enough.
  6. I am grateful that I have so much love in me. That is my treasure house.
  7. I am filled with love, joy, wisdom, peace and I am sharing it today.

Bestseller author Fajah Lourens receives dozens of messages every day via Instagram from all kinds of women who write: ‘I’m ugly, fat and I have pits …’ She recommends all these people first: ‘Start by saying that you are already beautiful . ‘

Bonus 1: Say these phrases as often as possible in your day. While vacuuming, driving or standing in line.

Bonus 2: Add an extra dimension to your affirmations. See next tip …

Tip 3 – Express self-acceptance and ‘tap’ the energy nodes in your body


This tip consists of two elements. The first element is that you proclaim self-acceptance of yourself out loud. The sentence you utter for that will go something like this:

“Although I  {enter here what you have not fully accepted from yourself until now},  I accept myself 100% and I love myself completely.”

The second element is that you are going to tap certain energy nodes on your body. There are not many of them. You can read how to do this in the article about tapping .

Tip 4 – Do ‘mirror work’: special self-love affirmation

There are four variations of this affirmation, made famous by Louise Hay. Do all variations:

  • Look yourself in the eye in the mirror. Say “I love you” in the mirror while looking at yourself. “I really love you very much.”
  • From now on, make this affirmation immediately if something unpleasant happens: “I still love you.”
  • Do this affirmation every time something beautiful happens. Say ‘thank you’ to yourself in the mirror (and thank the angels right away too !).
  • Whenever you walk past a mirror somewhere from now on, say something beautiful about yourself to yourself. We often say negative things to ourselves. From now on we will break that pattern!

Tip 5 – Be inspired by this song about self love

This song is incredibly relevant and wise. 

Tip 6 – Take care of yourself

Take care of yourself and treat yourself. For example, buy yourself flowers and surround yourself with beautiful scents and stuff (bless your home with it).

Love yourself and everything else will fall into place. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
– Lucille Ball

Another great technique for taking care of yourself is to literally pet yourself. There is also a method behind this: the MIR method , where you stroke yourself on the hand.

Tip 7 – Take care of others

Do nice things for other people every day. Why? Ultimately, all love is the same. Whether it is self-love or love for someone else, it is always one big Love with a capital letter.

Tip 8 – Get into the deep place which is called ‘self-acceptance’ and trust

Before you start accepting yourself, you might become afraid that you are not developing yourself anymore, but luckily that is not the case at all. In fact, the opposite will happen after you accept yourself. You will go through a gigantic development. Trust that!

What is the biggest reason why self-acceptance is so challenging? With self-acceptance, you will experience so much unconditional love that it will blow your ego away. And it is very scary to lose that old self. But in reality you don’t lose anything that is real and you win everything that is real.

Tip 9 – Meditation works wonders for self-acceptance

Why does this tip work? Why does meditation work to increase self-acceptance? What happens during meditation actually makes a lot of sense: your ego disappears . That’s helpful, because the only one who doesn’t have self-acceptance is your ego. That’s actually all the problems. Suddenly you feel acceptance and compassion for everything that seemed to bother you. For example, test these meditation texts and see what happens to your self-acceptance.

Tip 10 – Accept the challenge to accept yourself

Make an appointment with yourself: challenge yourself to accept yourself. After all, self-acceptance isn’t that easy, so it’s okay to label it as a challenge. It is easy to like beautiful things . To see the beauty in everything is more challenging … But of course mega liberating!

I love me.
– Harrie Jekkers

Tip 11 – Guard your boundaries

This is a very practical step to more self-love: just say no more often, set boundaries and enforce them . This shows self-love and it does not have to be at the expense of your love for others.

Dare to be Yourself.

Tip 12 – Have a sweet internal voice that accepts yourself


Turn the knobs of your internal voice and make it softer and nicer. You can do this with submodalities .

Tip 13 – Let go of perfectionism: know that you are good enough

The bar may have been higher for some time , but you are good enough. As soon as you realize this, you achieve more  and the bar cannot be high enough! It is a lie to think that you cannot do something, that you are not enough ( perfectionism … ).

“I’m not good enough for the others.” “And yourself, are you good enough for yourself?”

Stop ‘improving’ your life and start living. No amount of self-development can make up for a lack of self-acceptance. After attending dozens or hundreds of seminars, books, retreats and therapy sessions, sooner or later you will discover that the key to happiness is simply: relax! No muscle, extra effort and brute force is required.

Has it ever occurred to you that you are trying too hard to …

  • Something to heal?
  • To be happy?
  • Nice to be liked?
  • To pass?
  • Succeed in a difficult relationship?
  • To lose weight?
  • Attract a partner?

This is counterproductive, as De Edele Kunst Van Not Giving AF * ck teaches us. Relax! Trust in your goodness and relax in your wholeness. In order to give yourself acceptance and love, you don’t have to do anything good or great to justify this kindness.

Tip 14 – Appreciate and love yourself in all your vulnerabilities and imperfections

A second way to love ourselves is to deeply appreciate ourselves. For our little apartheides, for everything we feel ashamed of, for the things we might not do very well … We can change by loving all our aspects. That’s vulnerability, and that’s key.

Unfortunately, many of us don’t love ourselves until we lose that weight, until we get that job, have that boyfriend, or whatever. We always put conditions on our love, but we can change. We can love ourselves just the way we are. Now.

Loving the beautiful things … Yes, that’s easy. The trick is to also see the beauty in the ‘less beautiful’ things.

Self-acceptance requires some time, attention, courage, vulnerability and a lot of self-love. Accept and embrace your own imperfections. You don’t even need reasons to love yourself. (Self) love is actually the standard. The baseline measurement. From that point we have drifted into guilt and hatred towards ourselves. Our ego did that, and our ego made us believe that that guilt and hair is ‘normal’ …

Love yourself for no reason. In fact, you are love yourself.

And is all this not working yet? Do you still feel the self-judgment (ego) very strongly? Therefore, have love and acceptance for the fact that you are experiencing your ego instead of self-acceptance. Be fully accepting of every aspect of yourself, including the dark sides. You become a space of unconditional love and acceptance and that ignites other wonderful people as well.

Tip 15 – Stop rejecting yourself: there is nothing wrong with you, but you are the only one in the world who continuously contradicts that

self reject self acceptance

It will seem  like others are  rejecting you, that they are blocking you, that fate is unkind, that life is against you and that you are being punished from above, but in reality you  are the one who condemns and sabotages yourself and sabotages all good .

No one else in this world is rejecting you right now. You’re the only one who has done that hundreds of times this week.

For example, if you don’t find yourself attractive, then you (your ego to be precise) are the only person in the whole world who finds that. The reality is: a lot of people find you attractive. And if you will find that too, then everyone will find it even more. You will literally hear it back from them. “How do you get such a beautiful head / name / hair / body / smile?”

The fear that something might be wrong with you is the greatest block to joy. In fact, there is no other blockage besides this one. As long as you feel that something is wrong, or wrong, or insufficient, or not enough about you, then your life will reflect this belief.

There is nothing wrong with you. Accepting this is the only act of healing.

You can see the imperfections in yourself that no one else actually sees at all. You can make up a story about how bad you are. You can convince the world about how repulsive you are. Feel free to give these weird ideas all your power if you want to, but your true (unconditioned) self will remain whole, dignified and good.

There is a massive shift when you practice unconditional self-acceptance, give yourself a break, choose kindness over judgment, choose forgiveness over self-attack, and choose laughter over judgment.

Life always gets better when you treat yourself better.

Practice self-acceptance so that you can again be with your full attention with others around you instead of being with your ego. See the light in their eyes, face and presence. And see the good in everyone you meet, including yourself.

Tip 16 – Go to the place that is always loving to you: find self-love in your own heart

Where is that self-love actually located? Where can you get it from? The answer is: in your own heart! Resolve to trust your heart unconditionally forever. Place your hand on your heart regularly and feel the self-love from the center of your heart.

Put your hand on your heart and say, ‘I love you. I love you very much. ‘

Here you will find more similar heart meditations.

Why is your own heart the place for all the love you need? Imagine two places: place A and place B. Let’s call place A yourself / your heart and place B the outside world / society.

Well, what place B wants from you? Society always wants to make you think you are doing it wrong. Place tells you in commercials that you should go to McDonald’s and eat all kinds of sweet and salty products to get fat, and at the same time, Place B wants you to look like the covemodels on the magazines you saw in that same commercial break from the McDonald’s.

Place B also says to you: ‘Life is about money, but don’t do anything ambitious to actually change the world, because otherwise you would just make a lot of money and we shouldn’t have that.’

Do you see the trap that puts place B in front of you? It is a so-called ‘double bond’ . In both demands place B places on you, you feel rejected in this outside world. However much you want to please this society so that they accept you, you are not going to find happiness in this outside world.

EGO: The Belief That ‘Everything Good is Outside’
– Robert Holden

And now check this out … Go to place A: yourself, or your heart. When you land a little bit more in your body, there is a place that loves you completely. It’s in there. There is a place that sees that you are enough. There is a place that always accepts you. There is a place that tells you not to feel guilty (the problem is that you want people from place B to understand you, which is causing all the pain).

Are you going to look outside of yourself for happiness? That is tantamount to rejecting happiness, which is just here in your heart.

No one can reject you and bring you down, but your belief that people can bring you down (place B) brings you down. Here in your own body you are forgiven, loved, enough, accepted and free. Only you, and only you can do that. Very nice too, because you are always around.

Your body becomes a place of refuge to turn to during difficult times.

Tip 17 – Don’t look for your ultimate fulfillment and love in a relationship

You are not fulfilled by relationships with others, but by the relationship with your Higher Self: a person who is happy is more attractive to others. If you are looking for more love, you have to love yourself more.

Is there love in you? Do you need someone else to experience that love?

Feel free to have a great relationship – and at least not look for your ultimate fulfillment in a relationship. Use a relationship as a means of gaining awareness with your partner. Then a relationship offers you fulfillment. Later in this article, where you learn that you are love, you will learn why this is so important!

When you miss your partner, you just have to look in the mirror for a moment. You are free. Powerful. Good. Lovingly. You have value. You have a purpose.

Tip 18 – Be okay with being alone

When you can be alone, you have understood that you get all the love from yourself, and not from external bodies, events, or situations.

Tip 19 – Be honest with yourself about your emotions … And feel them!

Be honest with yourself about what feelings you feel. If you are sad, admit it and welcome it. Ask your intuition how to deal with this and how to process the emotions. 

Tip 20 – Do this meditation from Louise Hay


  1. Deep in the center of my being, is an infinite source of love, an infinite source of joy, wisdom, peace … This is true. For everyone here. We wonder how often we associate with it. ‘
  2. Just for a moment, I would ask you to close your eyes. Take a deep breath and go to that place in you where there is infinite love. Where it always was and where it always will be.
  3. And feel that place of love in you, and let it grow and get bigger.
  4. Do the same with the place of joy, peace, etc.

Tip 21 – Forgive yourself and everyone, then self-acceptance will come naturally

Forgiveness is a great means of self-love. Say forgiveness out loud to yourself.  This also allows you to let go of the past and save the valuable lessons for the future,

Tip 22 – Be a champion of non-judgment

Not judging has not only to do with what you think of others and other situations: it also has a lot to do with what you think of yourself and your own situations. So develop the ability to look at your mistakes from a neutral position. Accept yourself as you are. By not judging (read accompanying tips) , a powerful impulse of self-love can appear just like that.

Tip 23 – Let go of social comfort behavior (get approval from others)

Do you find yourself wanting approval from others? Does that make you do things that you don’t actually want to do? Just listen to what you want and don’t waste your mental energy on pointless comfirmistic behavior.

Don’t be a feather in the wind. Be the compass that always points to its course, whatever the weather changes.

Tip 24 – Use this simple prayer / intention

Say the following prayer as your intention:

O Lord, show me the truth about myself. How beautiful it is.

Tip 25 – Don’t wait with self-love: start now!

Love yourself now. Do not wait. I recently spoke to a woman who first wanted to heal from her illness and skin rash, first get her life in order, first get a better job, first earn more money, first raise her daughter, first buy her own home, first her collect pension together and then wanted to love themselves.

Self-love is not a trophy you win after crossing the finish line. It is the entrance ticket at the start. Without self-love you get nowhere and you win nothing.

And tip 26 is … Read this article to come to a spectacular conclusion for yourself.

Understanding Self Love – You really have to love yourself before you can love your desired partner

To get love, you have to be loving!  It works like a mirror. Life always reflects back to us the feelings that we have within us. Send your (self) love into the world, then the person who recognizes this feeling of love and wants to share it together, will be attracted to you like a magnet.

To give love, you must have love! That’s an interesting statement too – and it actually makes a lot of sense …

I also can’t give you money if I don’t have it myself.

I can’t hand out cookies at the office if I don’t have cookies to hand out, can I?

You have to learn how to fill your bucket so that it overflows with love.

Then you really have something to offer your environment.

– Jelle Hermus

If you don’t have self-love, there is little love to spread. If you have self-love, you can really offer someone else. So take care of yourself and love yourself. Because of this you live in abundance (of love). In addition, stop sacrificing and weakening yourself.

Have self-love so that you have enough for everyone

Also, don’t be choosy about handing out your love, but make sure there is more than enough for everyone. That is real love – and that is only possible if you actually have a lot of love in you. Wherever you go, you can cause good things because you share from abundance. Moreover, the power of this is that you no longer select to whom you do not give your love: it just keeps flowing. Then you can just keep on giving.

A river doesn’t care who drinks its water. She just flows. A flower just doesn’t care who smells its wonderful scents – it just blooms. The river and the flower cannot do anything else. There is abundance and it has to go somewhere. That is the power of self-acceptance and self-love. It’s great fun and that’s exactly how life should be: overflowing with joy, joy, meaning and love.
– Jelle Hermus

Understanding Self Love – See that you are love

i am love

Since this is such an important one, we’ll go into this for the rest of this article.

Love is what we are, why do we search for it?

We do all kinds of crazy things to get what we already have. Your love – and with it all love – is not outside of you, it is deep within you. It’s you. You cannot lose it. It does not depend on an external body or an external form. In the calm of your own presence you can find your own formless and timeless unmanifest reality.

Your job is not so much to find love as to see through the ego’s smokescreens so that you can see that you have been love all along.

Did you find this? Then you can then also feel that same life deeply in every other person and creation. You then see through the illusion of difference. You feel that you are equal with all forms, creations and all life. You feel that you are one and the same with all other people. This is the realization of oneness (non-duality) . This is Love.

Love is never outside of you. It is always within you.

As soon as you feel that love in yourself, you will also see that part in all other people: you then see through that thick layer of difference (which is an illusion). You see what is indescribable and cannot be called (you could call it God). You then have a piece of love that will never leave you: it is love that remains .

That love is not in a form: it is timeless, unconditional and formless. Seek your love in a form outside of you (such as status, objects, a relationship, a body outside of you) to be fulfilled and complete, you will be disappointed. You can use your relationship as a means to develop that pure love together and to help each other in that.

“I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being–neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there’s no question of integration or intermarriage. It’s just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.”

Malcolm X

Do you depend on others for love and happiness?

Painful feelings cannot be caused by another person either. ‘No one outside of me can hurt me. Only when I believe in stressful thoughts do I hurt myself. I don’t need someone else to stop hurting me. I need myself to stop hurting me. ‘

Do you want love to give you something? Then she will hide.

Otherwise you make the other responsible for your {happiness}, so that you no longer have to be responsible. If you cannot connect with yourself, how can you expect that from others?

If you feel comfortable with yourself and have accepted yourself completely, then other people will find you approachable and love you for who you are.

Love yourself? The true meaning of love …


When you look at something in the world from deeper than yourself, consciousness looks and sees itself. When you look at the world as consciousness, you see incredible beauty. And wherever you look: you get a special feeling of ‘I am actually looking at myself’. You basically look at yourself, because everything is ‘you’. Everything is an expression of consciousness, and so are you.

Wherever I look, wherever I go, I see myself in a different form. The true meaning of love is to know the other as yourself. Not love the way the mind tries to love, not the kind of sticky love that is dependent and fearful, but true love. Also read the section ‘See how everyone is consciousness and inner peace, instead of seeing shapes and their differences’ of this article.

We were once one. That one big bang, from one point …

Love is the realization that there is no ‘other’, the realization of one: that we are one. Then you can recognize the other as one with yourself. There is then a realization that you are an expression of the same one life, that same one consciousness in another temporary form.

You look at a flower and You recognize your own essence in the flower … Or in a cat … And you look at another human, and you look through his layers of mental noise and ego stories. You know every form of life as yourself, manifested as another form. You see it as yourself. That’s called love. You are always in a state of love. Not the selfish, clingy so-called love: “I can’t live without you, don’t leave me!”

We can recognize and celebrate that we are connected by a force greater than all of us, that connection and strength is grounded in love. Love is one with something or someone. Put aside your own ego shield. Become one with the other. Feel the other completely.

There is no problem that cannot be overcome with enough love.
– Emmet Fox

Love is not something you can want because you already have it. It is not outside but deep within you. Love is the feeling of unity in you and in all beings. That love is for everyone, it is not selective or exclusive. It is not ego. It doesn’t make one person feel special. The sun cannot exclude anyone either. The intensity does differ. Your job is not to seek love, but portals through which love can enter. This applies to all properties.

The basic energy of the universe is love. It is around you and within you.

The Bible says love your neighbors as yourself. The second part of that sentence should not be forgotten. ‘Like yourself’ . You cannot give more love to someone once it puts in yourself. When you love yourself, you don’t hurt yourself and others. Love keeps the world going. That expression is true. It is the precept for world peace: peace within ourselves. With inner peace, there is no war, gangs, terrorism, homelessness, poverty and starvation.

Increase self-love? You are love

‘Who am I?’ Normally not long after that an answer comes from your mind, and it will come. It is not quite what your mind says. But after that question, leave an empty space. The answer to ‘Who am I’ is in the quiet room after the question. Pay attention to that. If you look for ‘self’ where it is not, so outside you, you will encounter suffering.

Love is like a radio station that is always on the air. Our job is to tune in to that radio station.
– Marci Shimoff

Instead of seeking freedom, we now realize that through our lives we give freedom, not get it for ourselves. Also in meditation is love: giving, to the world and others. Don’t get it. Don’t search. But express. Meditation is being what is true, not that seeking.

Your own spiritual development, the realization that love is your own responsibility, that is what makes love pure.
– Jan Geurtz

We can increase our self-love by not seeking approval outside of ourselves. Love is already in us. In fact, it’s us.  Byron Katie applies this principle by reversing all thoughts in life. Instead of “She didn’t help me,” you believe, “I didn’t help me.” (By continuing to go to her).

Stop looking for the light and become the light yourself.

And then we get to the point where we realize that we have to give our love

The goal of this article is to make you do not one shift, but two shifts when it comes to self-love. The first shft is: from seeking to receiving  love.

Don’t look for love. Because it is already there. Surrender to it. And besides, receiving is the most effortless thing you can do.

But now that you’ve almost finished reading the article, you should look at it even differently … The second shift is: love is not something you seek, and not even something you receive, but something you give. This is your gift. Your mission to the world. You are not here to find happiness and love. You are here to increase happiness and love.

Ask yourself: am I loving , or am I looking for love? If you are going to wait for love, you can wait a long time.

Not sure if the feeling you feel is love? Then ask yourself, “Am I glad I can give more , even though I may have already given a lot?” If your answer to this is yes, without regretting it afterwards, it is love.

This book by Jan Geurtz goes very deeply into self-acceptance

Jan Geurtz’s book ‘Addicted to Love’ is all about self-acceptance. Recommended.

Read this poem about self-love

Charlie Chaplin wrote the poem below on his 70th birthday.

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”

– Charlie Chaplin

Good luck loving and accepting yourself!

This was the article on developing self-love and accepting yourself. I would like to help you on your way with some reading tips. Also read the article about vulnerability and  the article about Byron Katie . Finally, read the article  ‘the world is your mirror’  because that has a lot to do with this. I would like to read from you in the comments what you thought of these tips.

Have fun with the process of accepting yourself!

About The Author


Hello! Thanks for reading these articles. My intention is to make happiness as simple and clear as posssible. By the way, excuse my English. I am not a native English speaker since I live in Amsterdam. Much appreciated if you use the comments to make suggestions on my grammar. See ya in another blogpost!


  1. Anonymous

    Thank you so much for giving great tips and poem. How incredible it is to forget oneself while chasing desires and dreams. having a friend probably I will never meet in life and yet appeared out of nowhere to remind me what I have forgotten and focus on loving thy self.

  2. Anonymous

    This is perfect for me, the English grammar is not so important.